What it's like dating a Mukiga man/

See, since time immemorial, across the globe, ladies have always dreamed of dating a romantic man. Of course romanticism varies and most girls will have a list of what denotes this romanticism. But right now focusing on Bakiga men, the concern will be on verbal romanticism. Bakiga inhibit their emotions so much and since they have high self esteem they assume that everything is obvious.

First of all. You will never hear a Mukiga man asking you to date him or be his girlfriend. The closest to that he will say is that he likes you. That's the first and last romantic thing you will ever hear. And needless to say, they can be really charming so you will find yourself spending more time with him and months go by without you having an idea whether you are his girlfriend or not. For him, in his mind, you are his and he assumes you know it. He will not feed you with any 'nonsensical' things you might want to hear simanyi 'I will love you till lake Bunyonyi dries' or 'our live will be as strong as that between Bakiga and irish'. It won't happen. 

That..... never going to happen

However, there is still hope that you will know whether you are his girlfriend or not; when he introduces you to his friends. You will even be in shock! For someone who has never mentioned or referred to you as his girlfriend, he will say it to his friends when he's asked to introduce you to them. So from this moment on; you can go ahead and refer to him as your boyfriend too. Mufittinga!

Secondly,  if you are watching too many movies or you tube videos of how other guys have proposed to their girlfriends, you in for another shock. A Mukiga man will never say the words "Will you marry me." Let alone get on his knees.... how? This is how Bakiga men propose. Therefore you should be prepared if you are dating one.

1.) He will ask you "konka shi why don't you marry me?"  This will sound like he already asked you to marry him and your response was negative thus he wants to know why why why on earth you cannot marry him. Okay now what's the correct response to "Konka shi why don't you marry me?" Riyalle!!

Obviously you can not shout "yes yes yes, I will marry you" as you had practiced during your fantasies.

2) If you are lucky that he proposes to you with a ring, he will place it on the floor, table or even misplace it. Then he will be like, "Haza look for the ring oba in my pockets oba it fell under the bed... don't you know you are going to be my wife."

3) Remember how you got to know you are his girlfriend when he introduced you to his friends? That's the same way you will know when he proposes. He will introduce you to his friends as his

wife. He is the one who calls the shots, in fact, he even controls your feelings for him because it's all in his head. What he thinks about your feelings matters more than anything you could ever say.

On the bright side, where as they are not romantic, and are poor at expressing emotion, their love is real and mostly expressed in their actions. For example, you will never lack irish in your home, in your life! That is love.

Oh and I should also mention that a Mukiga man doesn't care to hear you say you love him. He already thinks it and doesn't need any assurances ....it is only default. And he will see no need of telling you he loves you. So if you hoped your husband would say the three little words to you everyday or even compliment you, move away from southwestern and venture into central, northern or overseas, lakes, rivers and mountains.

Don't say I didn't tell you. Don't be slow when your Mukiga man proposes the best way he can. Ok bye.